TRANSITIONS – THE SIDE EFFECTS

copyright-stylegallivanter.com_TRANSITIONS_TOP-FASHION-BLOGGERS-AUSTRALIA-2016-4And so the conversation continues… we are still talking about the transitions we go through in life. If you missed out, you can catch up here and here. This time we highlight the unpleasant side of going through a transition. I am sure there are many, but I am going to zoom in on the people around. From my past experience, I have come to understand that not many friends will understand what you are going through during your transitions in life. Some friends will just out of nowhere go AWOL. No explanation. No reply to your texts. GASP! And it’s usually the ones you thought were your ride or die’s (google it for the explanation). Aaah well, in the past I would have taken this as a sign that I have done or said something wrong that I wasn’t aware of. But now I have reached a point where I know that more often than not, it is not even that, so I have stopped the self blame. If you feel your time is over in someone’s life, then that’s that. It is certainly not worth forcing matters. The classy thing to do would be to say it though. Just saying. On the flipside, you get those friends who do not necessarily understand what you are going through, but go out of their way to be there for you. God bless their cotton socks! I have been blessed enough to have many of these. The most annoying though, I have come to experience, are those who take things personally and blame you. There’s no other way to say this people, but having a baby means I can’t be at your house 24/7, talk on the phone all the time etc… It’s a miracle if I get to text you (as most mothers would testify; the process is usually like this – you read a text, answer in your head, then forget to type it out). So, no. You don’t get to be a cry baby about it. I have other things on my mind… and unfortunately me gallivanting around is not a priority nor a necessity anymore. I know! You’d think many would at least try to understand how hard life is as a new mum. Turns out not. Anyway, the moral of the story is, when you go through a transition in life – the people around you may find it hard to adjust to your new status. Yes, even if it is a simple one like becoming a mum. But never take this as a sign of you being a bad friend, just accept it and move on. Focus on all the things you need to be doing now. If you can handle that, all will work out for your good, as the unnecessaries get sifted from your life.The best lesson to get out of this is that…

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens… Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

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